Please stop praying for my son with autism to be healed

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So many people have told me over the years they are praying for my son. I am incredible grateful for that and the kindness they show but what are they praying about?
Are they asking God for my 8 year old to finally speak? Are they asking for his seizures to stop? Are they praying he learns to communicate or to read and write? Or are they praying for him to be healed of his autism?

Let me be very clear..I want people to pray for my son. My entire family needs prayers and needs God more than we ever have. We need love and support. But please please could you not pray for my son with autism to be healed?

Here is why.

There are many occasions when Jesus healed individual people in the Bible. These include people who were blind, deaf, paralysed, had leprosy, fevers, seizures and even those who had died. Despite studying all of these incidences I could not find any occasions when Jesus prayed for anyone who had learning difficulties or communication difficulties like my son’s autism to be healed.

Then there were mass healing events that Jesus did. Again although many were healed there is no direct reference to children or adults who struggled socially or had repetitive behaviours like my son.

The Bible says that Jesus welcomed the little children. Although I have no proof I am certain there were children in Bible times who displayed similar difficulties to my child. I know they were every bit as welcome to Jesus.

The Bible says that my child is fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14).
The Bible says my son was knitted together in my womb (Psalm 139: 13)
The Bible says my son is created in God’s likeness (Ephesians 4:24)
The Bible says my son is the apple of God’s eye. (Psalm 17:8)
The Bible says my son is God’s workmanship created to do good works. (Ephesians 2:10)
The Bible says God has plans to prosper my son and not to harm him, to give him a hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11-13)

God sees no difference between my son and anyone else. He does not view my son as less than or inadequate in any way. Could God heal my son of his seizures and his genetic condition that causes tumours in his body? Yes, without a doubt. Could God open my son’s mouth to give him clear speech? Yes, I believe that with all my heart. Could God cause him to be more settled and display less challenging behaviour and agitation? Without a seconds doubt of course he could. These are things I pray over him daily.

IMG_0440I pray for peace for him. I pray for joy and laughter. I pray for people to understand him and show him love. I pray safety as he travels so far back and forth in country roads to school each day. I pray for a receptive mind and open heart. I pray strength to his body and ease from pain. I pray for him to sleep (I am human so this is something I need too).

I pray for strength for myself as I care for him. I pray for wisdom and unity for those who work with me to meet his needs. I pray for his sister as she deals and lives with some events that could traumatise her. I pray her tender heart is not broken too often. I pray for friends she can trust. I pray she knows she is loved when her brother consumes so much of my time.

There is so many things I pray for and so many things others can pray for too. There are things you CAN pray for for my son to be healed of, but autism is not one of them. Autism is a neurological difference in his mind that causes him to see the world a bit differently. Autism is a part of the way God made him and it makes him beautiful and perfect.

God made each one of us part of a body. My son is every bit as much a part of the body of Christ as the next person even if he has severe learning difficulties, is vision impaired, has global delay and has autism. It does not matter to God that he flaps, spins, screams and is unable to speak. Man looks at all that but as the Bible says “The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” I Samuel 16:7

I pray that the world looks at my son’s heart too.

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54 thoughts on “Please stop praying for my son with autism to be healed

  1. I find it interesting that in the list of conditions in the Old Testament which disqualified a man for the priesthood (because of the ritual symbolism of God’s perfection) disorders of the mind and learning disabilities were not included. It has always made me think that something we regard as a disability is not seen in that way by God.

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  2. Reblogged this on ioinviaggio and commented:
    Traduco e condivido questo articolo da https://faithmummy.wordpress.com/2017/03/07/please-stop-praying-for-my-son-with-autism-to-be-healed/

    (mi scuso per eventuali errori di traduzione)

    Questa madre dice che l’autismo fa parte della creazione di Dio e che l’autismo rende suo figlio perfetto e bellissimo.
    Questa madre vive con due figli, di cui uno con severo autismo e ha una grandissima fede religiosa.
    Ecco una sua testimonianza:

    “Tante persone mi hanno detto nel corso degli anni che stanno pregando per mio figlio. Sono incredibilmente grata per ciò e per la gentilezza che mi mostrano, ma per che cosa sono pregando ?
    Stanno chiedendo a Dio che mio figlio di 8 anni possa finalmente iniziare a parlare? Stanno chiedendo che le convulsioni abbiano fine? Stanno pregando che egli possa imparare a comunicare o a leggere o scrivere? O stanno pregando per lui di poter guarire del suo autismo?

    Voglio essere molto chiara. Io voglio che la gente preghi per mio figlio. Tutta la mia famiglia ha bisogno di preghiere e ha bisogno di Dio più di quanto abbiamo. Abbiamo bisogno di amore e di sostegno. Ma per favore potreste non pregare più che mio figlio autistico possa essere guarito?

    Ecco perché.

    Ci sono molte occasioni in cui Gesù guarì singole persone nella Bibbia. Queste occasioni includono le persone che erano non vedenti, non udenti, paralizzate, con la lebbra, la febbre, convulsioni e anche quelle che erano morte. Nonostante io abbia studiato tutti questi episodi non sono riuscita a trovare alcuna occasione in cui Gesù ha pregato per qualcuno che avesse un disturbo dell’apprendimento o difficoltà di comunicazione come l’autismo di mio figlio che potesse essere guarito.

    Poi ci sono stati gli eventi di guarigione di massa che Gesù ha fatto. Anche in questo caso, anche se molti sono stati guariti non vi è alcun riferimento diretto ai bambini o adulti che abbiano lottato socialmente o abbiano avuto comportamenti ripetitivi come mio figlio.

    La Bibbia dice che Gesù ha accolto i bambini. Sebbeme io non abbia prove sono certa che ci sono stati bambini al tempo della bibbia che mostravano difficoltà simili a quelle di mio figlio. So che questi bambini erano altrettanto benvenuto a Gesù.

    La Bibbia dice che il mio bambino è fatto in modo stupendo. (Salmo 139: 14).
     La Bibbia dice che mio figlio è stato lavorato a maglia nel mio grembo (Salmo 139: 13)
     La Bibbia dice che mio figlio è stato creato a somiglianza di Dio (Efesini 4,24)
     La Bibbia dice che mio figlio è la pupilla degli occhi di Dio. (Salmo 17: 8)
     La Bibbia dice che mio figlio è opera di Dio creato per fare opere buone. (Efesini 2,10)
     La Bibbia dice che Dio ha in programma di far prosperare mio figlio e non fargli del male, di dargli una speranza e un futuro. (Geremia 29: 11-13)

    Dio non vede alcuna differenza tra mio figlio e nessun altro. Egli non vede mio figlio inferiore o inadeguato in alcun modo. Dio potrebbe guarire mio figlio delle sue convulsioni e dalla sua condizione genetica che causa tumori nel suo corpo? Sì, senza dubbio. Potrebbe Dio aprire la bocca di mio figlio per fargli fare un discorso chiaro? Sì, credo di sì che con tutto il cuore. Potrebbe Dio indurlo a essere più stabile e a dargli un comportamento più calmo e meno agitato? Senza dubbio, naturalmente, potrebbe. Queste sono cose per le quali io prego ogni giorno.
    Io prego per la sua pace. Prego per la gioia e la sua felicità. Prego perché le persone possano capirlo e dimostrargli amore. Prego sicurezza mentre viaggia avanti e indietro per le strade andando a scuola ogni giorno. Prego per una mente ricettiva e un cuore aperto. Prego la forza per il suo corpo e la salute dal dolore. Prego per lui che possa dormire (io sono un essere umano quindi questo è qualcosa di cui ho bisogno).
    Prego di avere la forza per me di occuparmi di lui. Prego per la saggezza e l’unità per coloro che lavorano con me per soddisfare i suoi bisogni. Prego per sua sorella mentre lei partecipa e assiste ad alcuni eventi che potrebbero traumatizzarla. Prego che il cuore tenero di sua sorella non si spezzi troppo spesso. Prego per gli amici di cui lei si può fidare. Prego che lei sappia di essere amata anche quando suo fratello occupa così tanto del mio tempo.

    Ci sono così tante cose per cui pregare e così tante cose per le quali gli altri possono pregare. Ci sono cose per le quali si può pregare che mio figlio possa guarito, ma l’autismo non è una una di queste cose L’autismo è una differenza neurologica della sua mente che lo induce a vedere il mondo un po ‘diverso. L’autismo è una parte del modo in cui Dio lo ha fatto reso e ciò rende bello e perfetto.

    Dio ha fatto ognuno di noi parte di un corpo. Mio figlio è un piccolo pezzo e parte del corpo di Cristo come la persona accanto, anche se ha severe difficoltà di apprendimento, ha la vista alterata, ha un ritardo globale e ha l’autismo. Non importa a Dio che egli si agita, gira, urla e che non è in grado di parlare. L’uomo guarda ta utto questo, ma come dice la Bibbia: “Il Signore non guarda le cose che le persone guardano. La gente guarda l’aspetto esteriore, ma il Signore guarda al cuore ”

    Prego anche che il mondo veda il cuore di mio figlio.”

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  5. Oh my gosh. This was soo powerful. It brought me to tears. I have a brain injury and am always told: “Well you know, if you’d just pray for Jesus to heal you, He well.”
    “You need to take this, or take that. Do this, not that.”
    “Maybe if you didn’t sin, or family sins, you’d be healed.”
    “Believe more.”

    I have many medical issues, can’t be left alone, for even two minutes.

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  6. Justin Welby’s lent book ‘Dethroning Mammon’ speaks of how we value people people on what they can do or contribute economically, not who they are and how they are valued and loved by God. He mentions Jean Varnier, who has speculated the possibility that Lazerus might have had some kind of learning disability. Where else in the new testement do you meet such a key figure, who seems not to speak? He is clearly deeply loved and valued by Jesus, and of course by his sisters with whom he lives (also interesting).

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  7. Hi to the mom not to pray for your son the scriptures you mention is the same one’s my mom used and autism is in the bible mark9:14,23 Jesus whip For all diseases didn’t say limit autism all diseases psalm 103:3 who healeth all thy diseases 1peter2:24 by his stripes you are healed and all diseases are from the enemy so don’t get mad read the bible and i am a person healed of autism i have been healed for 9 mouth going on ten mouths i am 34 year’s old i am glad autism is not fun and my mom used the same scriptures also get your son to say the scripture and yes your right your whole family needs prayer the doctor say i am normal Andrew Wommack ministry prayed for me i felt it go we are writing a book we went through a lot together i am not trying to insult you i couldn’t talk well my family is glad and there was some jeaslosy have a blessed day

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    • I do not see autism as a disease and my son is unable to speak so he can not say anything never mind Bible verses. Thank you for reading g though and glad you believe. I still stand by what I said that autism is NOT a disease or an illness and is just a different way if thinking.

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      • God bless you you answer me i wasn’t trying to put you down i was telling you about me people call me a miracle and i lived autistic i could not talk i also used to bang my head so i understand i am 34 year’s old i have to catch up my said i will do fine my tutor said also i also get bible study and you have a great mother day i hope you don’t mind i pray for your family have a bless day

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  8. I fully agree with you – What I have learned form God is that he uses all types of people. for example:
    ~ Noah was a drunk
    ~ Abraham was too old
    ~ Isaac was a daydreamer
    ~ Jacob was a liar
    ~ Leah was ugly
    ~ Joseph was abused
    ~ Moses had a stuttering problem (Moses stuttered)
    ~ Gideon was afraid
    ~ Samson had long hair and was a womanizer
    ~ Rahab was a prostitute
    ~ Jeremiah and Timothy were too young
    ~ David was an adulterer and a murderer
    ~ Elijah was suicidal
    ~ Isaiah preached naked
    ~ Jonah ran from God
    ~ Naomi was a widow
    ~ Job went bankrupt
    ~ John the Baptist ate bugs
    ~ Peter denied Christ
    ~ The disciples fell sleep while praying
    Martha worried about everything
    ~ The Samaritan woman was divorced (more than once)
    ~ Zacchaeus was too small
    ~ Paul was too religious
    ~ Timothy had an ulcer
    ~ Lazarus was dead!
    And I , dyslectic, cant read, cant write use to be an alcoholic, drug addict, I stuttered and couldn’t do sport, to slow so short, and God is using me to spread the Gospel through everything I could not do, I write and I speak and is a Pastor. Our God uses everyone! thank you for the post I enjoyed it!!

    Lydia

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  9. I have Aspergers high functioning autism. Autism is just our brain being wired differently. I pray that your son one day speaks but autism is just how our brains were created, God just made us that way and it’s alright.

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  10. U are so right are children are so beautiful and perfect the way are god wanted us to thank u for this i fill way different about my son i just need to give him all my love and help that i can u are doing a wonderfull job i can tell u that much keep it up i think he has a great mother i can tell god bless u and your family

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