You are probably thinking this is going to be a heck of a long blog with a title like that. What use would that be? I have no intention of boring you so I will cut to the chase.
If you have ever wanted to know why we still need autism awareness days or months or awareness days for any other type of condition here is why…
These 50 comments are all from the general public and each and everyone of them were actually said to a family with a child with autism or additional needs.
This is why I keep writing about autism. This is why we need people to talk about it.
1. Now your child has glasses it will cure his autism.
2. The best way to stop your child from smearing is to change him more often.
3. Your child’s difficulties are because you worked while you were pregnant.
4. Your children have autism because you don’t love them enough.
5. They probably have autism because they are twins. Twins always have problems you know.
6. It is because you had post natal depression. You are to blame for your child being disabled.
7. Your child is like that because you are not strict enough with them. They would never be like that if they were mine!
8. Are you sure they have autism? They don’t look autistic to me!
9. Vegetables, your child needs to eat more greens and then they will be fine.
10. It is because you breast fed them for far too long!
11. Your child needs to control themselves better.
12. Are you sure it isn’t you with the problem? Have you thought about counselling?
13. You must have really done something terrible is a past life to have a child who is blind.
14. Have you tried praying more?
15. She is non verbal because you don’t speak to her often enough.
16. He is just lazy.
17. They never had anything like that in my day you know.
18. He’ll grow out of it.
19. Have you not thought to use essential oils?
20. They just need a good smack.
21. Once he starts talking you will never know he has autism.
22. Disability is just a excuse for poor parenting.
23. Your child has that because you neglected them.
24. It is learned behaviour because their brother has it. They are just copying you know.
25. He just has too much screen time. Take his iPad away and he will be fine!
26. All kids do that.
27. It’s just because you have anxiety. That makes a child disabled.
28. She isn’t talking because you are deaf so you can’t teach her!
30. He’s fine in school you know!
31. Fillings. If you have fillings in your teeth it makes your child disabled.
32. Peppy Pig is what makes your child autistic.
33. You need to feed them the right stuff. Organic, gluten free, sugar free, wheat free…
34. It was probably for the best you had a miscarriage as you would not want another child like your son would you?
35. Cool they have autism! What’s their special gift?
36. He’s always fine with me you know!
37. It’s because you and your husband separated.
38. There’s no chance he has autism because he gives good eye contact.
39. There’s no chance you have autism…you have a job!
40. Are you sure they actually got diagnosed with that?
41. You just sent her to the wrong nursery!
42. Vaccines. I got my child immunised and made them disabled.
43. They just need more fresh air.
44. Dirt. My house is too clean and that has caused my son’s autism!
45. Have another child. If he has someone to play with he will be fine.
46. She can’t have autism, she’s a girl!
47. She is way too social to have autism you know!
48. You do way too much for him. Doing that makes them disabled.
49. You just want people to feel sorry for you because you have a disabled child.
50. Mixed race marriages. It isn’t right and that is why your child has problems!
Are you shocked? Angry? Upset?
So was I.
Ignorance is still rife and until people realise how wrong and hurtful comments like this are I will continue to write about the reality of my life.
You may have heard about autism but do you really know what it is?
It is alright to not know but it isn’t ok to say any of the things above.
I just hope and pray that every awareness day, every awareness month and every blog I write goes some way to dispelling some of these awful comments.
Until then I will talk about autism in all its reality, splendour and wonder.
Because I never want these two to ever have to hear any of those 50 comments, ever!